I would say some of the most successful managers (even modern day) are autocratic, Alex Ferguson, Jose Mourhino, all famed for telling players its their way or the highway.... why do you think you get so many players demanding transfers... it's because they dont like what the manager is saying... the club hasnt sacked the manager, they have sold the player... (yes these are at the higher echilons of the spectrum but it shows it still exists)
in regards to the kids, parents that allow kids to have "free reign" without recourse far from being valuable members of society. boundaries are key within development, if a kid is allowed to be shown that "doing what they want when they want" is acceptable, when they go into a working environment and do the same a boss will simply get rid. as he cannot be seen (regardless of talent) to be pandering to the needs of one as this would affect the moral of all others in the workforce. and whereas an opinion and questions is usually encouraged a "but why" scenario isnt, and thus the parents decisions are final. as is a managers... after all they are the ones who are judged.... it was rarely x didnt play well and thats why we lost, it was more why did clough play x in the first place....