Agree totally, the refs at the moment, and include the two asst refs and the 4th official, have no reason to make rational decisions based on the rule books. They are not held accountable by anyone for their decisions on the pitch. I really dont have an answer for how to make them accountable but until we do they will always come out with crass decisions that no one else can fathom or understand.
Money is the only way to make them see sense.
If we sat the whole refereeing team (ref,2 linos,4th off) down after the game and put their collective payment for the game in 10 pound notes on the table in front of them, then reran the game on the TV we could make money do things for us. For every decision that was made wrongly, that they could be reasonably expected to see, diving, shirt pulling, tackles which should have been pulled, the ref team should lose money from their pile. To start with this would mean them not getting paid but then they might use the rules as they should.
Will never happen but you get the idea.