The bit that I struggle with is the chance that wanting a scrap over football can impact someone’s entire future as well as family and loved ones.
I’d consider myself a ‘pussy’ when it comes to fighting, however I have no shame in this.
I've never fought at football, I've had minor scrapes, arguments at weddings etc with supporters of other clubs but I've never once felt need to fight anyone solely on basis of a football rivalry. So I can't speak from experience on the phenomenon of football violence but there is similarities with my own experiences and I'll try and make a connection between the two.
Men fight, we hunt, we kill, we fight the wars, we bring the bread home. It all sounds very manly because it is, its the bare minimum of what we got put on this planet to do. That's our role in the social structure, to provide and protect. Over time all the things iv listed have become obsolete, not socially acceptable, frowned upon unless there is an actual war, say if there was a draft, young men's natural willingness to be violent would be praised, hero's welcome all that.
When you mentioned joining military as an alternative that's one of the thing we've been speaking about, whether this is correct I don't know but it made a bit of sense to me. (Hence the need to fight wars comment)
People don't feel the same affinity with the country like they did in past, when it use to be rally round the flag, fight for your country etc. After ww2 and the relative peace afterwards, we got to an age of discontent (I'm trying my hardest here to explain something I barely understand so please bare with me) where people felt disenfranchised and the importance of the local football club took on a life of its own. Think older posters saying they went to watch both Sheffield teams and then it stopped. A line was drawn in the sand and sides were picked, your either a Blade or an Owl. The friendliness stops and the tribalism appears, the violence begins. The youth have found there war! It's every Saturday, you've found your army, you belong with them, your somebody now. You have a meaning, you have lads who will fight tooth and nail for you, its a good feeling. Once you've been on end of a kicking, been turned over at home, had a friend badly injured etc the rivalry becomes a separate entity and becomes personal to you, scorelines never ment much from what iv heard from people who were about them days.
I can to a degree understand the 70s/80s these days not so much.
Whether any of the drivel iv just typed is even remotely close to being true I don't have a fucking clue. I do believe we are violent by nature and there's no changing that. While people can't channel there violence they will find other avenues to use it.
I know this post has gone off a tangent from "having a beer and if it comes on top it comes on top" but it's a discussion I'm really interested in and thought I'd share what iv been trying to learn.